What is Grief?

Most people think that grief is only the deep sorrow that we experience after someone or something that we love has passed away – that is a misconception. Grief is also the deep sorrow that we can experience after a major life change or at the end of a familiar life pattern. Here are some of the many examples of events that could cause us to experience the feelings associated with grief:

  • Death of a loved one
  • Death of a friend or colleague
  • Death of a pet
  • Loss of a job
  • Divorce
  • Loss of a friendship
  • End of a relationship
  • Change in financial status
  • Infidelity
  • Abuse
  • Abandonment
  • Experience a major illness
  • Loss of a personal dream
  • Catastrophic event

As you can see, there are an array of experiences that can elicit the feelings associated with grief and there may be times when you may not understand those feelings or how to cope with them. During those times it is best to educate yourself about grief and grieving. If you compare what your feeling to other areas of life when you didn’t understand something, you will see that it became easier once you learned about it. If you know how to maneuver through grief in a healthy way, it allows you to experience resilience sooner which will bring about feelings of joy rather than sorrow.

Grief experts agree that we are all born knowing what is best for us and how to grieve, but that at different stages of our lives our subconscious minds learn differently and we are no longer able to recognize the information we were born with. The good news is that you can overcome this and learn how to consciously observe unwanted thoughts so that you can replace them with constructive, positive thoughts and begin to experience joy again!

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“These Shoes”

Would I give anything not to be walking in “these shoes” – the tattered, ugly, and most uncomfortable shoes of a grieving Mom? To contemplate this, I had to honestly take a seat, close my eyes and ponder that question with the most raw and real thoughts and emotions. As the mountain of things thatContinue reading ““These Shoes””

Jealousy & Resentment – right or wrong, they are ever-present in my grief

Scrolling down my Facebook wall, I knew it was that time again – the end of summer break when a lot of my friends would be sending their children off to college – preparing them both intellectually and socially for their futures. Each and every year, for the past seven years I have hated thisContinue reading “Jealousy & Resentment – right or wrong, they are ever-present in my grief”

The Real You

Have you ever stopped to contemplate the multitude of personality types that surround you daily? The vast array of people with varying degrees of differences between them – there are physical differences that differentiate us from one another, as well as personality traits that characterize each one of us. What makes you, you? Ask yourContinue reading “The Real You”

How I used mindfulness in becoming a resilient griever – and you can too!

What is mindfulness? Mindfulness is a mental state which we can achieve simply by focusing our awareness on the present moment – consciously choosing each and every thought that enters our minds. By living in the present, we can unclutter our minds of memories of the past, unconstructive thought patterns and worries about the future.Continue reading “How I used mindfulness in becoming a resilient griever – and you can too!”

Losing a Child

Losing a child is easily considered the greatest loss one can experience. The pain of losing a child coupled with the feelings of injustice at all that they and you will never experience can create a very real, personal struggle. When I lost my son and only child, I felt as if I had beenContinue reading “Losing a Child”

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